He is just a sperm donor!
While watching the Bill Cunnigham show, two woman in a committed lesbian relationship decided to become a family by selecting a man from their neighborhood to "donate his sperm." The woman who accepted the future challenges during pregnancy and birth, partook in sexual intercourse with the chosen male sperm donor to become pregnant. The soon to be mother acted on the acceptance from her wife. Both woman were given parental rights by the man in exchange for several thousand dollars by way of verbal agreement. The more dominant woman in the relationship was upset that her significant other decided to participate in physical intercourse after the birth of the child. The mother was very apologetic and did not speak much, except to mention that the betrayal of their monogamy was only superficial and lust filled. The step mother/legal maternal role model originally agreed to her wife participating in physical intercourse with this man, and allowed the possibility for her wife to be attracted to him.
It would not be a surprise if the mother is now attracted to the father and wanted to continue a physical relationship. The attraction could be his looks or the undeniable fact that he is the father of their child. After the child was born the biological father wanted to claim parental rights and was willing to pay child support, because he could not stand to lie that he had no children to another person or intimate partner. The more dominant woman angrily disagreed, and hysterically proclaimed that the man should tell people that he has no children. The most shocking reaction was that of the audience, when they cheered in support of the more dominant lesbians remarks. While the three adults may have agreed in court to sign over parental rights to the lesbian couple, the child is that of the mother and father, by blood. Legal document or not no man can deny blood.
As the man did commit to the legal agreements to loose parental rights, he can not loose his natural right. To deny any child the interaction and communication with their able mind and bodied father is not beneficial. As a future result the child may grow to resent the mother and legal guardian for separating him/her from the father. Or the other hand the child could believe that the father abandoned her/him for a check. Growing up with either thought or both could develop some insecurities that may confuse the child or stifle their growth. The lesbian couple should contemplate the benefits of including the father in on important events throughout the child's life. In the least and selfish decision that could still benefit the child, is they could contact the father to spend time with his child, all while allowing the lesbian couple valuable alone time. Every child should have the opportunity to spend time with their children, especially when the father is willing.
In a different scenario a man and woman are in a relationship, a child is born, the relationship suffers the battle begins for custody and money. The woman would most likely gain parental rights, as long as there is shelter, clothing, food and water. The mother may begin to argue for child support payments, which in some cases provide luxuries to the mother instead of necessities for the children. Some fathers may chose not to pay child support because when the child visits his home, they are provided with shelter, food, water and possibly clothes. In the fathers' opinion child support is not required because when the child is in their care, the child is well provided for.
The "rolling stones", with many children, not committing to a life long relationship with one woman, will realize their fate to die alone. Their children will live their lives searching for the affection and love they missed from their father or repeat the multiple relationship pattern, becoming afraid of commitment, uncertain of what love is and possibly feeling unworthy of love.
Wednesday, May 16, 2012
Friday, April 6, 2012
Hey Nigger
Your Mammy is here to talk to you
Stop selling your mind short by foolishly displaying your body everywhere
It's funny how you wonder why, you are treated like meat
Sisters stop being catty towards each other
Stop hating on each other because of the lightness or darkness of our hue
You are stepping on the back of our Black progression with your brand new shoes
Stop calling each other nappy headed hoes
Stop calling each other thugs because we were locs, afros and cornrows
Divide and conquer, I guess you dumb Niggers want to contribute to that mission
Stop all that fucking shooting and hollering you do
Stop all that robbing and killing people who look like you
Stop all that whinning that you can't make it and do something about it
Only a fool doesn't change
Only those who are insane do the same bull shit everyday
You really want to be apart of a gang?
Ending a child's life does not make you a G
It makes you the Aryan brother's gun man! See?
Breaking a mothers heart and darkening her siblings soul
Because your ignorant ass wanted to put another Black life on hold
Take your Black ass to school and get good grades
Graduate and find a legitimate hustle to get paid
Help your family out of that God forsaken town
Make your grandparents proud
Learn something about where you came from
Understand your history
Embrace the culture your ancestors knew
Trust, you will learn allot more about you
Stop thinking you know every damn thing
Shut up and listen before you sing yourself into an issue
Stop having babies all over the damn place
Put a condom on or put your dick away
A Black woman is not a sperm deposit box
And you sister should know better, put a lock on that box
What standards do you have in order to marry?
She don't want to be called a ho, but look, talk and act like one
You don't want to wed a Ho, but you want bed one
Stop confusing these females with your lower head Son
Stop playing like you care and act like it
Stop telling her you love her when your grabbing another woman's breast
If you want to be apart of something find a community organization
Start experiencing what it means to be apart of a strong Black Nation
Ignore any racists that say stupid shit to piss you off
Unless they take action and physically attack you have nothing to engage in
Walk away from their madness before they switch the blame on you
Nigger wake up! You are the leader of you!
Stop sagging your pants and start dressing like you are meant for board rooms
Become teachers and educate our youth
Become positive leaders and create our own truths
Shut down these 300 year old stereotypes
Stop arguing and start defending with actions to improve
Show yourself that these racists know NOTHING about you
Sunday, April 1, 2012
I just love my people
Why do White people get upset when a Black person doesn't love/promote/encourage them?
I have walked by White people who immediately grab tightly to there purse and child
Truly found it difficult to experience a smile, if I wasn't working for them
Will keep a floor clerk in a store keeping a close watch on every move I make
Not blind to the eyes in the sky zooming in on a brown face
Security in the video room just claims that he's doing his job
That African-American looked suspicious he went on
Looks like he or she was on a mission
I'm checking now to see if anything is missing
As a White woman or man you will never understand
The daily ignorance we deal with
I'm getting tired of having to deal with those who cannot feel my pain
Or recognize the social and economical strain
That face Kings and Queens with beautiful skin like mine
Why should I waste time celebrating the independence of America
While my ancestors were still in chains at that time and long after
Our great mothers being raped over and over and over by White men
Our strong fathers being whipped and castrated by White men in front of their wives
You want to talk about destroying the African man's manhood
Imagine that picture for a while
Ever saw that black and white picture of a young White girl around the age of seven
I'm going to call her Sally May
Little Sally was smirking when she saw a Nigga hanged that day
Now Sally is older and she has been getting paid
Offered to get you in school
Now that you are out, Sally's watching the economy prepare your noose
While Ms. May kicks the chair from under our legs
Damn near break your neck in two
To pay her cost of education
Her plan to have us continuously learning about the same race that made me a second class citizen
How traps are provided for me to stay in position
So as I raise my children I instill in them that they will always be suffering
Naturally they will look for the quickest way to provide and stay alive
Because the teachers hardly aim to encourage Negro youth
Of which the White teachers are afraid of, the suspicious children
Single African parents are overworked
Watching their babies grow up so fast it hurts
So they abandon school not being educated and just yelled at
School is something that they believe they can't accomplish
What that teacher is preaching is garbage
White teachers cannot understand all of the elements that go on in Africa's youth's mind
How many times must I sit in a History class
And never be told MY-story of the Africans who came before me
Never educated the class on my culture that I would expect to be considered American history
I guess there must have been something wrong with me
We need to band together and present a better case for our culture and our nature
But all of us haven't been taught the proper love of one another
Responsibility to our families or knowledge of our legacy
To over-stand how powerful we really are
That this "UNITY" cry isn't crazy at all
Blinded by this eras campaign of loving integration, the media monopolizes
And subliminally, TRY to convince EYE that Black and White
And all nationalities are bound in this melting pot
While some of us may have joined another color and bore
The lot of us are separated by CHOICE
So if we prefer to take over several towns have our own building and stores
Made with our own money and needing NONE of yours
So you won't have to feel offended that we are wearing your designer clothes
Because we will be adorning our own frocks
It is from my experience that certain Whites with power or money still like to see
Either a Nigga or another ethnic version of me to work for pennies for them
Now it's a crime to pay them nothing especially in mass quantities
The Richest of the Rich have Blacks still slaving for them on their acres of land
But you're to naive to believe that some Whites still proclaim
That we were meant to be slaves
But racism is dead? You must be crazy if that is what you have said
White people just won't accept the fact that WE will never forget what they created
African descendants are still treated like Aliens in what is supposedly "our" land too
I say DROP the American and just call me AFRICAN
Over here in America we should build Africa number two
White people piss me off because when I want to encourage my own people
They call me a racist because I didn't include their name in it
This is not about you
I just want my people to have our own property
And feel welcome in our own communities not matter our hue, education or tradition
Teach and encourage our youth so Whites are no longer are left to do it
And our children will see that Black Love should be more of a movement
I am not wrong for wanting the progression of my own
You are wrong for making me struggle to do it
And wrong for making me explain why
Haven't you had enough of controlling those who look like EYE
{For any other nationality of people who dig this, Peace.}
I have walked by White people who immediately grab tightly to there purse and child
Truly found it difficult to experience a smile, if I wasn't working for them
Will keep a floor clerk in a store keeping a close watch on every move I make
Not blind to the eyes in the sky zooming in on a brown face
Security in the video room just claims that he's doing his job
That African-American looked suspicious he went on
Looks like he or she was on a mission
I'm checking now to see if anything is missing
As a White woman or man you will never understand
The daily ignorance we deal with
I'm getting tired of having to deal with those who cannot feel my pain
Or recognize the social and economical strain
That face Kings and Queens with beautiful skin like mine
Why should I waste time celebrating the independence of America
While my ancestors were still in chains at that time and long after
Our great mothers being raped over and over and over by White men
Our strong fathers being whipped and castrated by White men in front of their wives
You want to talk about destroying the African man's manhood
Imagine that picture for a while
Ever saw that black and white picture of a young White girl around the age of seven
I'm going to call her Sally May
Little Sally was smirking when she saw a Nigga hanged that day
Now Sally is older and she has been getting paid
Offered to get you in school
Now that you are out, Sally's watching the economy prepare your noose
While Ms. May kicks the chair from under our legs
Damn near break your neck in two
To pay her cost of education
Her plan to have us continuously learning about the same race that made me a second class citizen
How traps are provided for me to stay in position
So as I raise my children I instill in them that they will always be suffering
Naturally they will look for the quickest way to provide and stay alive
Because the teachers hardly aim to encourage Negro youth
Of which the White teachers are afraid of, the suspicious children
Single African parents are overworked
Watching their babies grow up so fast it hurts
So they abandon school not being educated and just yelled at
School is something that they believe they can't accomplish
What that teacher is preaching is garbage
White teachers cannot understand all of the elements that go on in Africa's youth's mind
How many times must I sit in a History class
And never be told MY-story of the Africans who came before me
Never educated the class on my culture that I would expect to be considered American history
I guess there must have been something wrong with me
We need to band together and present a better case for our culture and our nature
But all of us haven't been taught the proper love of one another
Responsibility to our families or knowledge of our legacy
To over-stand how powerful we really are
That this "UNITY" cry isn't crazy at all
Blinded by this eras campaign of loving integration, the media monopolizes
And subliminally, TRY to convince EYE that Black and White
And all nationalities are bound in this melting pot
While some of us may have joined another color and bore
The lot of us are separated by CHOICE
So if we prefer to take over several towns have our own building and stores
Made with our own money and needing NONE of yours
So you won't have to feel offended that we are wearing your designer clothes
Because we will be adorning our own frocks
It is from my experience that certain Whites with power or money still like to see
Either a Nigga or another ethnic version of me to work for pennies for them
Now it's a crime to pay them nothing especially in mass quantities
The Richest of the Rich have Blacks still slaving for them on their acres of land
But you're to naive to believe that some Whites still proclaim
That we were meant to be slaves
But racism is dead? You must be crazy if that is what you have said
White people just won't accept the fact that WE will never forget what they created
African descendants are still treated like Aliens in what is supposedly "our" land too
I say DROP the American and just call me AFRICAN
Over here in America we should build Africa number two
White people piss me off because when I want to encourage my own people
They call me a racist because I didn't include their name in it
This is not about you
I just want my people to have our own property
And feel welcome in our own communities not matter our hue, education or tradition
Teach and encourage our youth so Whites are no longer are left to do it
And our children will see that Black Love should be more of a movement
I am not wrong for wanting the progression of my own
You are wrong for making me struggle to do it
And wrong for making me explain why
Haven't you had enough of controlling those who look like EYE
{For any other nationality of people who dig this, Peace.}
Tuesday, March 27, 2012
Uneven Exchange
(From "The Secrets of Enchantment")
Handsome, tall, strong and his
vocabulary is long
A face that a mother would brag
about
Sweat glistens off his skin as he
works out in the gym
And all your thoughts are in a haze
Fawn over this man who was so
skillfully made
Every muscle like it was chiseled
by the master mason himself
She walks, so gracefully her
movements persuade thee
Her eyes, so beautiful her gaze
entraps you
Curves so fine like sand paper
smoothed it
Skin soft, lips full, she’s kissed
by the sun
The aroma of her is the sweetest,
ever present in the air
This woman is the epitome of every
fantasy
Shiny and New, with all the space
you can ask for
It’s quick with bells and whistles
and so many tricks
Leather and Heated seats with a
system that’s pumping
Everything you fantasize about, all
that you desire
Your wants, Needs and wildest
dreams
Can come true if you just release
your soul to me
I can be your, everything
There is nothing better than this
bliss
Money, Cars, Women… Love, Security,
Stability
Money, Cars, Women… Love, Security,
Stability
Isn’t that what you want?
What more can you ask for?
This Is It! All the world’s spoils
are here for you
The world is at your fingertips and
everything in it
Forget about everyone else, it’s
about you
What do you want? What do you
desire?
It can all be yours
Just sign your name on the dotted
line
Wednesday, March 21, 2012
Thoughts continue
What is the problem with your husband having a "man cave"?
Every man should have their own personal place within the home. When the men become annoying during a conversation or activity, the men should be able to retreat to a place that is their own, where he will feel comfortable and can relax. When they come out of the sanctuary allotted for them, moods should be elevated.
A. Woman should also have their own sanctuary within the home, where she can retreat to when stressed. A moment of solitude may be needed for clarity so allow the men to have the same. A woman may be able to find solace in the beauty salon, shopping or an individual activity. Solace is found in another place than the home, so do not be surprised when the man goes outside of the home to do the same. However, the place he chooses may not be favorable. The "man cave" for him and sanctuary for her, being placed within the home will allow for growth of comfort when dealing with issues inside of the home and finding comfort from spouse/family.
Every man should have their own personal place within the home. When the men become annoying during a conversation or activity, the men should be able to retreat to a place that is their own, where he will feel comfortable and can relax. When they come out of the sanctuary allotted for them, moods should be elevated.
A. Woman should also have their own sanctuary within the home, where she can retreat to when stressed. A moment of solitude may be needed for clarity so allow the men to have the same. A woman may be able to find solace in the beauty salon, shopping or an individual activity. Solace is found in another place than the home, so do not be surprised when the man goes outside of the home to do the same. However, the place he chooses may not be favorable. The "man cave" for him and sanctuary for her, being placed within the home will allow for growth of comfort when dealing with issues inside of the home and finding comfort from spouse/family.
Tuesday, March 13, 2012
The Start of Fibromyalgia
All These Dr.s and NO HELP!
For over 10 years chronic back pain has been an issue, and two years ago the stressful journey begin to relieve this pain. Every Dr. asks the same question: "What is the cause of the pain?" Honestly, the cause of the pain is uncertain, but the pain is very real and DAILY. Over the counter pain pills might as well be a joke, none of them relieve the pain, not even temporarily. Prescription pills may work the first few days then, the pain is back to normal. What also makes the prescription drugs annoying are the side effects, including but not limited to; sluggishness, night sweats, increased heart rate, headaches/migraines and nausea. Some of the Opioids are so OVERWHELMING that basic daily functions are difficult and having clear conversations are tough. The body seems to reject the prescription pills, but the Dr.s keep prescribing more. Appointments to the Chiropractor has helped temporarily, but when the pain returns it is MUCH worse.
An acupuncturist suggested that there may be reason to be tested for Fibromyalgia, because the pain begins in the lower back area and spreads to the upper body and limbs, especially at night. An appointment has not been set to be tested for Fibromyalgia, but it soon will be. The common irritant is the tightness/tension in the muscle tissue, as it is consistent and daily. Randomly the pain will be so horrible, that getting out of bed is difficult and frustrating, because resting until the pain fades is a priority. There are even times where the body feels stiff and immobile. This is an EXTREMELY scary feeling. No matter how many times I tell Dr.s that Prescription pills do not help and how ORGANIC/HOLISTIC medications are a preference, they continue to IGNORE the cries.
The patient should be able to explain the issue and receive the help and medication they ask for, especially when nothing else is working. The pharmaceutical industry is really just being lead by funding and sales. The concern is no longer about the RIGHT assistance to the patient, but how many times will they go to the pharmacy to pay for pills for brief/temporary relief or pills that won't work. This is extremely frustrating, improper use of personal funds and Dr.s have become ENEMY #1.
Today this video on youtube struck a chord: "Rick Simpson hemp oil and chronic back pain"
For over 10 years chronic back pain has been an issue, and two years ago the stressful journey begin to relieve this pain. Every Dr. asks the same question: "What is the cause of the pain?" Honestly, the cause of the pain is uncertain, but the pain is very real and DAILY. Over the counter pain pills might as well be a joke, none of them relieve the pain, not even temporarily. Prescription pills may work the first few days then, the pain is back to normal. What also makes the prescription drugs annoying are the side effects, including but not limited to; sluggishness, night sweats, increased heart rate, headaches/migraines and nausea. Some of the Opioids are so OVERWHELMING that basic daily functions are difficult and having clear conversations are tough. The body seems to reject the prescription pills, but the Dr.s keep prescribing more. Appointments to the Chiropractor has helped temporarily, but when the pain returns it is MUCH worse.
An acupuncturist suggested that there may be reason to be tested for Fibromyalgia, because the pain begins in the lower back area and spreads to the upper body and limbs, especially at night. An appointment has not been set to be tested for Fibromyalgia, but it soon will be. The common irritant is the tightness/tension in the muscle tissue, as it is consistent and daily. Randomly the pain will be so horrible, that getting out of bed is difficult and frustrating, because resting until the pain fades is a priority. There are even times where the body feels stiff and immobile. This is an EXTREMELY scary feeling. No matter how many times I tell Dr.s that Prescription pills do not help and how ORGANIC/HOLISTIC medications are a preference, they continue to IGNORE the cries.
The patient should be able to explain the issue and receive the help and medication they ask for, especially when nothing else is working. The pharmaceutical industry is really just being lead by funding and sales. The concern is no longer about the RIGHT assistance to the patient, but how many times will they go to the pharmacy to pay for pills for brief/temporary relief or pills that won't work. This is extremely frustrating, improper use of personal funds and Dr.s have become ENEMY #1.
Today this video on youtube struck a chord: "Rick Simpson hemp oil and chronic back pain"
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